Trust you all have been doing well.
Today, I would like to talk about a word we all are very familiar with. It’s none other than “Judgment.” For me, it’s a big word in its silent use. For many years or decades, we have trained our minds to judge people around us. For instance, if someone approached you formally and informally, you start thinking about why she/he came here, what was her/his real motive to visit me? Isn’t this the case?
Our relatives, sometimes our brothers and sisters, too, become prey to this word. Let me talk about this word more in detail in Q and A format to keep it short.
1. What is the judgment?
2. Why do we need to judge people?
3. What we get after allowing our brain to do this particular exercise – judging people?
4. Most importantly, where we need to use this in-born skill, and where not?
Let me answer these questions in the same format.
1. The process of forming an opinion or evaluation by discerning (to detect with senses other than vision) and comparing.
2. Is it to do with fear of losing something or a fear of getting hurt? I believe all your answers will be covered under these umbrella questions. In another way, if you are a giver, then it doesn’t matter what his or her real intention of approaching you is? But if in case you are a taker, then it matters to you. Then these questions are a big concern for you.
Let’s say you want to achieve something that may be a progression or promotion, but only one can be promoted out of a hundred employees within one particular department. Unfortunately, everyone knows this. You may have envisaged this situation in your professional life.
Not going into details, I want to quote one instance from a movie bewakoofiyaan where Ayushmann Khurrana was promoted to Sr. Executive, and after few months, he had to put down his papers because of recession and his employee cum friend junior to him was managed to save his job and was promoted to his position.
3. Self-satisfaction that we are better than him/her or maybe a sudden increase of self-motivation which was missing until we came to know that our friend or a colleague is still in the same position which you were a few years back. Unfortunately, your self-satisfaction, as well as self-motivation, ends until you meet another colleague who had been promoted to higher-level, which you were trying to be at, for many years. Everything scatters within a moment you come to know about his successful journey. You start feeling like you have wasted you enter years of hard work, sacrificing your personal space.
In-short, your self-motivation as well as self-satisfaction, depends upon the success or failure of your colleagues or friends. So, my answer to my readers is hidden in the answers to these questions: Why can’t we run our race? Why can’t we compete with ourselves every day?
4. Because we have been wired this way and it will take ages to be re-wired again, but one thing we can do until we re-wire completely. Let’s use our brains to judge people in terms of how happy they are? How fulfilling life are they living? What are their values? Are they givers or takers? Rather than, do they own house? How big is it? What car do they hold? What brand shoes they wear while running or walking?
Lastly, Have faith in you and run your race by giving your best every day. One day your efforts will be appreciated and awarded. Let’s validate and imbibe this thought process #VoTP.
Let’s change how we have programmed ourselves and re-program using new technology by validating data after processing and deleting or storing it accordingly in your subconscious mind until you find another better way.
Stay healthy(P), Stay fit(M), and Stay happy(S).
Being givers, it’s essential to have 3S in your life.